Defiance on the Road to Decay

“I’m not dead, I’m not for sale.”

The waning days of August. After midnight; 2 a.m. about to roll around as inconspicuous as the 80,000th mile on the odometer of an old girl who won’t quit. Not quite ready to bring it down just yet. Miles of quiet. Last man standing. Watching the tide roll in. Everything leading to this feels weighted and opaque- a dull ache only noticeable in moments of stillness. When you’re young, there’s a timelessness to the hours before dawn. They dissipate in the moonlight. The keys to your dad’s old beater will open up the world around you like never before- possibilities expanding beyond the infinite. Everything with a veneer of significance. Sitting at a diner and only ordering coffee. Telling ghost stories on old country roads. Hopping fences and trashing swimming pools. Searchlights in graveyards on Saturday Nights.

Once this is lost, it’s gone for good. You get to an age where late nights just feel late. But you search for little bits and pieces of it. Maybe you drink to forget that the clock is always watching; a grim, invasive specter. If you have anything left to give- any mark left to make- you’re coming up on now or never. This is something an adult can never forget- no matter how many drinks he’s had.

But on the beach at 2 a.m., I can dip my toes into the realm of the timeless. Close my eyes and for a scant moment feel at one with the world around me. If you’ve never felt it, even if just for a moment, you’ll think I’m selling you on some bullshit- but it’s true and it’s beautiful. And it’s only for a scant moment until I’m reminded of why I’m at the beach so late, as electricity pulses down my spine and my legs anxiously fumble about the sand.

I’m at the beach at 2 a.m. because I’ve been awake for the past forty-eight hours.


If masculinity is power, there is a defiance inherent to masculinity. The masculine man lives on his own terms, resisting the world’s inertia insisting he conform. He assesses risk and reward, and takes pride in making his own decisions. No better a glimpse of defiant masculinity than the combat sports fighter. He understands the game- he evaluates the risk, and visualizes the reward. Even the losing fighter garners the respect of participation- the only participation trophy that matters- and walks away with a warrior’s honor and the gorgeous women who find that irresistible.

The feminized world cannot come to grips with the defiance of masculinity. It misunderstands the high-risk/high-reward dichotomy, foolishly believing that the participants are unaware of the risks or else they wouldn’t hunt for rewards. The feminized worldview is steeped in consumerism- the proverbial activity punch-card at summer camp; the bucket-list life- where the longer life is understood as the better life. If not for a long life, how else can one enjoy food, wine, and travel?

The modern male exists as an infection of consumerism. To the male consumer, there is no higher degree of satisfaction than money and women- not wicked in their own right, but neither should be ends in themselves. The masculine man will demand a deeper experience, spitting in the face of risk to attain something which transcends what the consumer can understand. When a man’s goal is money and women they’ll settle for achieving either with the least amount of energy exerted- leaving them enslaved to a master both at home and at work.

When Robert Frost wrote A Time To Talk, a reminder that there is more to life than working, the perspective was masculine. It is the masculine inclination to use time productively- not to consume but to produce, so much that Frost felt as though a reminder was needed that there is value in moments of rest; that a man entirely consumed with productivity is a man living in isolation. There must exist a time to work and a time to talk– empty spaces in life; spaces without immediate utility. The feminized man, as infected by consumerism, does not understand life this way- always looking to minimize effort and maximize pleasure; the feminized man cannot stop talking.

Making time to talk is critical for the masculine man- a necessary reminder that productivity can be an abyss.


I’ll have this moment when a coworker asks what I did over the summer, and inevitably tells me of some week-long cruise or family trip to Wally World, where I think of loperamide hydrochloride. If you didn’t know, loperamide hydrochloride is more commonly sold as Imodium AD- an over-the-counter diarrhea remedy. And I have this moment where I think of 3 a.m., lying in bed, desperately reading about the dangers of taking loperamide hydrochloride to treat opiate withdrawal.

It’s a funny story, I swear.

When a man transcends the feminine, summer camp, bucket-list life and becomes attune to looking at his time on Earth as the maximization of productivity- pure creative output, total content-mindset- he inevitably begins looking for ways to squeeze the most blood from a stone. How can I sleep best, when it’s time to sleep, and work hardest when it’s time to work- risks be damned. It was toward the waning days of spring when I discovered kratom.

What the anti-drug crowd never mentions is the difference between drug use and drug abuse. Conceptually, these are separate and distinct- however difficult it may be for the drug user to avoid abuse. The masculine man, captain of his own ship, can assess the risks and visualize the rewards. There are upsides to drug use for the masculine man, looking beyond the depth of consumption, to maximize productivity. There’s a reason writers are alcoholics, opiate and cocaine addicts- because it works. Snort a few lines and open up your word processor; get into a flow state, feel your presence, laugh like a maniac at your own jokes, enrich your mind-body connection- pure creative output, total content mindset. The masculine drug user isn’t looking to masturbate his emotions with an artificial light show-  the masculine drug user is obsessed with squeezing blood from a stone.


Arguably the best Stone Temple Pilots album is Purple (1994). Maligned for being a few months late to the grunge party, and maybe edging too close to parody with their debut, Purple redefined STP’s sound by replacing the darker, grungy riffs with trippy, psychedelic rock. More was possible with this lighter, experimental version of the band- gone was the joyless sludge of “Dead & Bloated,” replaced by the radio friendly “Interstate Love Song.” Gone was the histrionic “Wet My Bed,” replaced by the understated “Big Empty.” The Pilots no longer had to explicitly sell you on their dark intentions- they would allow the music to convey it organically, as with the subtly haunting “Kitchenware and Candybars.”

The cover art to Purple- a smiling baby, riding a dragon while a group of angelic women look on with wonder- was found printed on the first bag of heroin Scott Weiland ever bought. In fact, a lot of Purple is about Weiland’s heroin use which began on their first tour; “Unglued” details the manic height of defiant experimentation while “Vasoline” laments the sobering reality of addiction.

According to his own account, Purple was recorded “outside of time and space.” With heroin, Weiland was able to tap into the timeless space of youth- a place of pure creativity. Maximum possibilities- pushing things beyond the infinite.


Finding my sweet spot with kratom took a bit of clumsy trial-and-error. The powder tastes awful so the flavor needs to be masked. I fell into a groove of taking it toward the late-afternoon into early-evening; this quickly became, very precisely, 5:15 p.m.. I would time my after-work gym session to finish around 5 p.m., so I could be home by 5:15, mix my fifteen grams of kratom with almond milk and flavored protein powder (a bolder flavor, like chocolate-malt or rocky road worked best), and get to work. Kratom was fantastic for productivity. I’d sit down to write and let the words take on a life of their own- outside of time and space- pure creative output, total content mindset. I was happier on kratom and more social. Soon I was taking kratom before seeing friends and meeting women. I was better with girls on kratom; I felt one with body and mind. Moderation is masturbation; I went from “once-in-a-while,” to every other day, to every day. As addictive as Tylenol and as safe as coffee. I had found a way to squeeze blood from a stone.


A concrete, static timeline is inherent to drug use- heroin is not known for its generosity. After producing a fantastic third album with Stone Temple Pilots, Weiland had hit his creative peak and came tumbling down. Within months of releasing the wonderfully bizarre Tiny Music… Songs from the Vatican Gift Shop (1996), the Pilots had to cancel their supporting tour, pulling out of a coveted opening spot for the KISS reunion, and would soon disband entirely. Weiland had traded long-term stability for short-term creative mania, like finding the invincibility star in Super Mario Bros. (1985), and was saddled with a debt to repay.

I began feeling awful so gradually that it wasn’t immediately noticeable- it felt more like a new normal. Kratom isn’t heroin. The decline isn’t sharp- it’s subtle. I noticed that I was losing my trademark, high-energy morning enthusiasm; getting to work was becoming a drag. A symptom of getting older, I had assumed. I was becoming more irritable, more prone to frustration, more prone to insomnia, more prone to constipation. My legs began to ache constantly- was my leg-day that strenuous? I found myself counting down the hours until 5:15 p.m.… and when summer rolled around, I figured that I’d dose earlier and then hit a second batch later that night.

Double the dose, double the productivity. Total content… something or other? Actually, I was posting on Twitter more than I was doing any real writing- I wanted that hard, immediate dopamine hit. I was distracted and aimless. I had gotten what I could from kratom and it was time for a break. No problem, I had thought- a few weeks off to clean-up and recharge- then I could get back on and get back to work.


Pacing my tiny kitchen at 10 p.m.- heart racing, legs aching- dealing with a downward spiral of denial that was overwhelming.  The worst case, I had assumed, was some kind of psychological attachment- addiction for the weak- something I could push through with sheer will. I had quit smoking earlier in the year, and yes, I had spent the week compensating with pizza and ice cream, but I took care of the fucker. Will and determination- I could push through anything. But I was never expecting a physical dependency

Kratom came with a debt to be paid.

Turns out kratom is highly addictive- funny, right? It’s not a supplement, it’s a drug. It may come on slowly but it ends up mimicking genuine opiates- opiate-like, indeed. It was the beginning of July and it suddenly became clear exactly how I would be spending my summer vacation.


Scott Weiland would fall between relapse and recovery for the rest of his life. His work would never again reach the height of the mid-nineties. Each relapse took a little more from Weiland, chipping away at him so gradually that it was hardly noticeable at first. He would reunite with the Pilots only to be fired a few years later- he began losing his voice and wasn’t able to get through an entire show. Compensating for his failing body, Weiland doubled-down on his drug use- but what had worked in the past to push him to his spiritual limits had only served to destroy what was left. Weiland died a shell of himself, a walking corpse– he had pushed things as far as they could go, he had run out of content; he passed-on with nothing left to give.

The moral of the story is that there is no moral. Sorry, Charlie Rose, real life doesn’t work that way. Two-thousand words later and I don’t have some grand conclusion or massive realization. Know the rules of the game and decide how you want to play- a long life of potential mediocrity or a creative energy that burns with the fire of one-thousand suns. The defiant man can make this decision for himself and deal with the consequences of his actions. Dip your toes in the water of creative-mania and maybe you can get out alive- fully immerse yourself and watch it kill you.

“Today I saw the sea. I’m no longer afraid.”

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  1. Craig · December 16, 2018

    So, you’re still using Kratom? Would you recommend others at least give it a try?

    • "Bad" Billy Pratt @ Kill to Party · December 16, 2018

      I am no longer using Kratom- it took about three months to taper off and it absolutely sucked; so it kind of lost its charm with me.

      I’m not endorsing use or abstinence, but I do want all readers to know that KRATOM IS ADDICTIVE- if not at first, eventually with enough usage, so absolutely avoid habitual use.

  2. Marshall Franks · December 17, 2018

    Hear he was hanging out with Courtney. Colbain- somewhere between. Bands. Not good..

    His best work is velvet revolver. .a singer of many moods and colors…and real feeling behind his voice most singers just can’t capture

  3. Rayce · December 17, 2018

    holy shit, how do you even get 30 grams of that stuff down? and how do you not vomit?

    i had a similar experience as well, but was never that deep. i quit for a few months, but then started doing it again, this time careful to set limits and stick to them. 8 grams (instead of the 14 i was taking), no more than three times a week, generally avoid doing it two days in a row. so far, it’s worked, and it’s made my life better.

  4. Cheek · December 17, 2018

    Wow still trying to catch me breath

  5. Kevin Hunt · December 17, 2018

    The most ridiculous article have had misfortune of reading. No meat just rambling nonsense . What was writer trying to express. Himself. Not impressed. Psychological analysis see one u ain’t one Hunter Thompson wanna be.

    • You tuion · December 17, 2018

      Agree 100%..What a mess

  6. Devin mcleod · December 17, 2018

    What a bunch of horse shit pablum fodder. I was constabated know i know a giant turd is cimming out my asshole just like the stuff i just read

  7. Dylan Wohl · December 17, 2018

    Well done…Your perspective helped to bring mine much more into focus. I can see how easy it all must have seemed to Scott at the time. How easy it seems to all of us and how quickly it seeps in. For what it’s worth the blood he squeezed out of the stone is timeless and beautiful.

  8. Carol Bell · December 17, 2018

    This was a very enlightening article. But I’m feeling depressed because I feel like I live a mediocre life.
    I will try to change that somehow.

  9. Sally Oglesby · December 17, 2018

    Don’t know who u r but came upon your blog…what a confusing disjointed mess of an article you wrote..Jus what r u try in 2convey? R u writing about Scott weiland and or kratom or withdrawals or addiction or creative writers block or what? You news entertainment..How bout this….jus be quiet..

  10. menswellnesstoday · December 18, 2018

    Should have just stuck to modafinil man.

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  12. The Empty Subject · December 19, 2018

    What others find disjointed, I see as layered. Good job, man. I like the prose in this one. It’s written just right. Not too flashy, not too lean. Perfect for the mood of the piece. I’d think it took you some time to edit and shape, though it comes across as natural and easy. That’s how you know you’ve done well.

    Speaking of talented grunge fuckups, as a kid I was a huge fan of Layne Staley and Alice in Chains. It seems strange to me now how a middle class midwestern kid such as myself gravitated towards such dark music. I didn’t grow up dealing with trauma and loss. No one around me was addicted to drugs, at least from what I remember.

    But that music tapped into something underneath my actual experience and environment. Thoughts and fears with no objective counterpart. A pain and a longing that were transcendental. I’ve always suffered in theory, in private, in my expectations. I’m not trying to suggest that my life was secretly much worse than most. Just that I didn’t need to be on heroin to relate to the expressions of an addict, of a man who knew he could only carry his pain so far, that he’d made a dirty deal.

    A short burst of creative brilliance for a long, mediocre life. Layne Staley and Scott Weiland made the trade. They wasted away quickly, they outlived themselves even though they cut their lives short. I knew the temptation, at least when I was younger. Great art for a ruined life. Sublime works for dysfunctional relationships.

    I smoked a lot of pot and did shrooms. They seemed to teach me things, most of which I can’t remember now. The feelings were so intense but they’ve faded. I don’t know if they helped my art and I don’t know if they helped me live. Without knowing it for sure, I probably chose the mediocre life.

    Mediocrity has its own charms, its own greatness. And I also think that much great art has grown out of it. People who work average jobs, take care of average families and live in average neighborhoods, whose worst crimes are traffic violations. Sometimes they touch the depths and heights of experience through imagination and will, through steady labor and craft.

    We don’t always know of these people. They don’t always market themselves and show their craft to a larger world, preferring to share it with a smaller circle, which may be mediocre, but at least it’s theirs.

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  14. Beet · December 24, 2018

    What an honest, intelligent and fun essay. I absolutely love it. Thank you for sharing.

  15. P.T. Carlo · December 28, 2018

    I liked this, as I like most of your work. I can definitely relate as well (obviously), the creative mania is definitely a real thing, and better than most other things in life, including sex. It’s hands down better than bugmanism or dadism (which is a distinction without much of a difference). What you’re describing is obv very much in line with the gospel of BAP, who has been one of the very few interesting and powerful voices to emerge out of the online ether in the past few years.

    Still, BAP’s gospel (though beautiful and powerful) is incomplete and at best will only lead you to a beautiful death. Also: BAP is some kind of ancient demonic entity that is merely temporarily possessing some bodybuilder’s flesh sack, so that also calls some of his statements into question (I mean this unironically btw).

    I believe there is another path than the ones traveled by Scott Weiland and Clark Griswald (a false duality imo), one that has still yet to be fully articulated. Corruption is the trademark characteristic of our age, on all levels. All ranks of our society are deeply affected by it, elite and pleb, aristocracy and hoi poli. All are corrupted on a level that goes past mere superficial behavior and goes down to the structures of their very thought, and the narratives which structure their life worlds. This is the problem, the only problem really, that we have to solve.

    The tragedy is that the online right had the potential to create a genuine alternative to this corruption. But, while many (though not all) of its critiques were frequently quite good, they were tarnished by the fact that the people lobbing them at the shitlibs were themselves also hyper-corrupt. The online right is a genuine cesspit of personal pathologies, and I don’t just mean this in some kind of meaningless and stupid JBP “clean your room” way. The prob with Peterson and the morally and intellectually worthless dad class he represents is that they merely want to train you to be a better bugman, to reconcile yourself to the peculiar corrupt bug hierarchy of neoliberalism without actually challenging it. Before we do anything else we must address the problem of corruption: which must be done simultaneously on both the personal and societal levels.

    This is all I can say for now. But in the meantime, my advice to you and others is this: keep writing and honing your craft without worrying about trying to build some shitty e-brand. Do it for its own sake, because you love doing it. In the meantime meditate on this problem and potential solutions. And pray…

    Pray toward Yellowstone…

    Pray for the justice of the volcano…

  16. Broman · January 19, 2019

    In the vein of manic creation, I have found obsessed individuals to always be interesting. I have had the privilege of working with many obsessive types in my career (engineering) who mimic and sometimes even surpass those behaviors of drug abusers. They will starve, deprive themselves of sleep, mutter phrases a mind numbing amount of times, and even refuse to use the bathroom (one individual I met at a refinery in Louisiana) until they have solved a problem. I have always had some perverse respect for them, as I would require a severe meth habit to approach their level of dedication, yet those around them will decry their personalities as flawed and broken. Reading your essay, perhaps my respect comes from an instinctive feeling for their masculine expression of their craft.

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